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03 Dec 2024 ~ 3 min read

Striking the Balance - 2


๐—ก๐—ฎ๐˜ƒ๐—ถ๐—ด๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—–๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ณ๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ being open ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐—ฆ๐—ผ๐—ณ๐˜๐˜„๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐——๐—ฒ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ผ๐—ฝ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜

Over the years in software development, Iโ€™ve embraced the habit of keeping an open mind. The tech landscape evolves rapidly, and clinging to rigid assumptions can hinder growth. By continuously self-assessing and welcoming new information, Iโ€™ve been able to adapt and learn. However, Iโ€™ve recently faced an unexpected challenge: my openness has started to feel like a liability.

Whenever a junior developer presents a different opinion, I find myself questioning my own knowledge. Instead of confidently sharing my expertise, I often concede, allowing self-doubt to overshadow my experience. This pattern has left me wondering how to strike the right balance between being open-minded and standing firm in my convictions.

๐—ง๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐——๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฏ๐—น๐—ฒ-๐—˜๐—ฑ๐—ด๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐—ฆ๐˜„๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ฑ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐—ข๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ป๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€

Being open to new ideas is a valuable trait, especially in an industry thatโ€™s always on the move. It fosters innovation, collaboration, and continuous learning. Yet, without boundaries, it can also lead to uncertainty and diminished confidence in oneโ€™s abilities.

My intent has always been to avoid becoming complacent or resistant to change. But in doing so, Iโ€™ve swung too far in the opposite direction, undervaluing my own insights and expertise.

Here are some strategies Iโ€™m adopting to navigate this challenge:

๐—ฅ๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—ด๐—ป๐—ถ๐˜‡๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฉ๐—ฎ๐—น๐˜‚๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐—˜๐˜…๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ

My years in the field have equipped me with a wealth of knowledge. While itโ€™s essential to remain receptive to new ideas, itโ€™s equally important to acknowledge the validity of my own experiences.

๐—˜๐—ป๐—ด๐—ฎ๐—ด๐—ฒ ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐—–๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€๐˜๐—ฟ๐˜‚๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐——๐—ถ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—ผ๐—ด๐˜‚๐—ฒ

Instead of immediately second-guessing myself, I now engage in open discussions. I ask junior developers to elaborate on their perspectives, which often leads to a deeper understanding on both sides.

๐—ฆ๐—ฒ๐˜ ๐—•๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ป๐—ฑ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐—ฆ๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ณ-๐——๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฏ๐˜

Not every differing opinion warrants a complete reassessment of my stance. Iโ€™ve started to evaluate when self-doubt is constructive and when itโ€™s unnecessarily undermining my confidence.

๐—ฆ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ธ ๐—ฃ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐—™๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ฑ๐—ฏ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐—ธ

Discussing challenges with trusted colleagues or mentors provides external perspectives. They can offer insights that reaffirm my position or highlight areas for growth.

๐——๐—ผ๐—ฐ๐˜‚๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ฅ๐—ฒ๐—ณ๐—น๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐˜

Keeping a record of decisions, thought processes, and outcomes helps in reflecting on past experiences. This practice reinforces learning and builds confidence in decision-making.

๐—˜๐—บ๐—ฏ๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—–๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ณ๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜ ๐—ข๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ป๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€

Striking a balance doesnโ€™t mean diminishing openness or dismissing othersโ€™ ideas. Itโ€™s about harmonizing confidence with humility. By valuing my own expertise while remaining receptive, I can contribute more effectively to my team and continue growing professionally.


Hi, I'm Sai Manibalan. I'm a software engineer and AI enthusiast. You can follow me on Twitter, see some of my work on GitHub, or read more about me on my website.